Stuart Payne (16 Nov 1972 - 25 Feb 2021)
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Funeral Director
- Location
- Wessex Vale Crematorium Bubb Lane West End SO30 2HL
- Date
- 24th Mar 2021
- Time
- 1pm
STUART PAYNE
16.11.1972 – 25.02.2021
In loving memory of Stuart John Payne who sadly passed away at Southampton General Hospital in the early hours of Thursday 25th February 2021 aged 48.
Stu had been diagnosed at the age of 40 with Follicular Lymphoma. We were always aware that his cancer was treatable, not curable but we never gave up hope that a cure would be found. Although he suffered endless months of chemotherapy on many occasions over the years you would never had known. He was determined that his illness would not define him. He obviously had his moments of sadness and frustration but he loved life. He was happy with his ‘lot’. He had a family who he adored and who adored him, a job that he was born to do & an abundance of colleagues and friends that he was so grateful to have.
He was incredible.
In August of 2020 the Lymphoma became aggressive and attacked his central nervous system. He lost the use of his legs very early on and his eyesight diminished. Even then, in true Stuart style, he took it in his stride and courageously battled on. He still insisted on working, albeit slightly differently. He remained patient, thoughtful & funny & his sense of humour still shone through. Ever hopeful.
His visits to C2 at Southampton General Hospital became more frequent. He was a ‘regular’. A pub regular would have been how he would have preferred it but this was now his new bar and as you can imagine he was always the life & soul of the ward!! Everyone knew him & loved him there. He kept them all on their toes. At this point I would like to thank the ‘NHS Angels’ who took both of us under their wing. They were amazing friends. They made us feel so safe and loved during the hardest 6 months of our lives. They are worth their weight in gold and I will be forever grateful to every one of those special, special people.
For me, our lives started together, just the two of us and that is how it ended.
My darling Stu, thank you for 27 magical years, our two beautiful children and a life full of happiness but most of all love, so much love. We were inseparable. In our final days together you assured me that you would always be with me. I believe you. Being your wife was an honour. I will carry you in my broken heart forever x
The unbearable sadness is felt by us all:-
A treasured role model & totally loved Dad by Jordan & Tilly
Extremely Brave & Beloved Son of Carol and the late John
Adored by his Brother Richard & Sister Claire
Legendary Uncle, Son in Law, Brother in Law & friend.
I would be really grateful if you could share your personal memories of Stu on this page. I know that he meant so much to so many of you.
We have decided that we will be doing family flowers only but we would love, if you wish, for donations to Blood Cancer UK in Stu’s memory.
lit a candle
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![Stuart his happy usual self xx](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/HYWfmtGrBSrVxyOM0U9sTVoWSe0=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/d6a51874-d6fc-416a-9bb4-5c36291c0f1b.jpeg)
Stuart his happy usual self xx
![Majorca, sun and fun. You were a beautiful man Stu and loved by so many. Funeral tomorrow, sending huge love to all family and friends 💕💕💕](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/kyrc2p9Ucmo_gLr62OhTHhxQz0k=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/bf56cb20-140b-4f19-be48-fe066336bf9e.jpeg)
Majorca, sun and fun. You were a beautiful man Stu and loved by so many. Funeral tomorrow, sending huge love to all family and friends 💕💕💕
Such good fun and such a sharp mind. Sending love and sympathy to the whole family. x
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The football dads as the alternative Village People
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![Stu, you had an incredible ability to make everyone feel special, you were always engaging, interesting and great fun to be around. Cheryl and I feel so privileged to have spent so many fun times with you and Jo over the years. xxxx](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/7S6iRRKJrvUlnIbgV0S6uFvtRQI=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/447dd7ed-dabe-4f9a-9c1f-17d428617cfa.jpg)
Stu, you had an incredible ability to make everyone feel special, you were always engaging, interesting and great fun to be around. Cheryl and I feel so privileged to have spent so many fun times with you and Jo over the years. xxxx
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![Stu you definitely made a lasting impression to all who knew you and to those you just met. Your be sorely missed... we will miss that cheeky smile but is etched in our memories........ Jo Jordan and Tilly sending you much love and hugs xxxxxxx 💕](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/KMVAHsTcv6JzDlM0gOBUnCqM0XY=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/486bd964-9f54-4f93-90b2-6a1b7c524c25.jpg)
Stu you definitely made a lasting impression to all who knew you and to those you just met. Your be sorely missed... we will miss that cheeky smile but is etched in our memories........ Jo Jordan and Tilly sending you much love and hugs xxxxxxx 💕
![So many great holidays with our Stu ❤️](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/3ngO10G5py4pvq04S2O4t8Fv014=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/0d2d174f-96b0-41a3-9448-0bd9eaeeaf0a.jpeg)
So many great holidays with our Stu ❤️
![NYC50](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/LpCe04N0Y3nKNjMTCIEPWRwPtzo=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/f9417210-76ea-4f11-9aa1-f079bb07d1af.jpeg)
NYC50
![Stuart with his godsons on their 18th birthday. Great memories. ❤️](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/7sU5wfGRq__zu4CDYXWyIx5z9Xo=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/194af4f1-bc56-4fc8-913c-06f58f2f6520.jpeg)
Stuart with his godsons on their 18th birthday. Great memories. ❤️
![Great times xx](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/_9-X3xu0B43johAn0sbrelTOlC0=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/0e2f5d26-7bce-4d37-9082-9491bddf2ed2.jpeg)
Great times xx
![Just a lovely man xxxxx](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/xgxz6-2epV2h2XT4p3Eh0_VL7eE=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/66377feb-cfcc-4914-a6c0-6e8bce402336.jpeg)
Just a lovely man xxxxx
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![Check out that Barnet ! ! !](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/NEuC4uhsiac5KdTojtx8aMBf9FE=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/c9b52277-46d3-43ed-bfa2-f99c18cf8ca1.jpg)
Check out that Barnet ! ! !
![He was taken far too soon, but the time spent with Stuart was amazing. We'll all miss his cheeky and fun nature, & fondly remember times spent together. Stuart was truly a 'Top Bloke' & will be very sadly missed. Fair winds and following seas Stuart xxx](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/vEn5FE7vyYnCOltlQUiYLH6cnpM=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/b42848b2-6a98-417d-8108-7075db7f1c32.jpg)
He was taken far too soon, but the time spent with Stuart was amazing. We'll all miss his cheeky and fun nature, & fondly remember times spent together. Stuart was truly a 'Top Bloke' & will be very sadly missed. Fair winds and following seas Stuart xxx
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"NYC50" An amazing trip, with so many laughs!
![Taken from us far too soon, but the time spent with Stuart was amazing. He leaves us with so many fun memories and his cheeky nature will always make us smile. A truly 'Top Bloke' who we'llsadly miss, fair winds and following seas Stuart xxxx](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/znEe_H00Kk23tPm1pLy0cJvlYP8=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/f8431817-16c0-4a12-b4b6-d8397e17acc8.jpg)
Taken from us far too soon, but the time spent with Stuart was amazing. He leaves us with so many fun memories and his cheeky nature will always make us smile. A truly 'Top Bloke' who we'llsadly miss, fair winds and following seas Stuart xxxx
![One of many ‘best days ever’ ❤️](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/so5XzaoDTsfB8FWGKNRwoOwnfaY=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/48f1edf6-358a-47e3-81ce-b56c8642aabb.jpeg)
One of many ‘best days ever’ ❤️
![Stu, you were the best mate anyone could have, I’m going to miss our Friday 5 o’clock club and the endless one for the road. When my darts eventually start again I will miss my No1 supporter. Rest in peace my friend Muzzy, Mich & Sarah xxx](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/kqFjhUQOuhN1IRQXJdc2hw1uD2Y=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/66c1accf-15ea-4033-89bd-87c55f9aabc1.jpeg)
Stu, you were the best mate anyone could have, I’m going to miss our Friday 5 o’clock club and the endless one for the road. When my darts eventually start again I will miss my No1 supporter. Rest in peace my friend Muzzy, Mich & Sarah xxx
![I love this photo, Flo and I were sitting on the stairs and Stuart played peekaboo around the corner. 💕💕💕](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/3iuzH9vsb0KYNUWg0QcGTstuBAI=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/b3b9156e-12b5-43e3-884f-165d5cea4365.jpeg)
I love this photo, Flo and I were sitting on the stairs and Stuart played peekaboo around the corner. 💕💕💕
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Never forget the Regatta nights with a good friend
![One of the family ❤️](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/UwVsGPIU16n9UL7bwc4T9NOFEE8=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/6774fd75-dc62-4309-bab9-90b0dc8b3a39.jpeg)
One of the family ❤️
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