Elizabeth Joan Carder (12 Feb 1937 - 20 Dec 2020)

Love and miss you Mum, 2 years and forever.
Love Deb, John & Pearl xxx

Remembering the delightful you on what would have been your 85th Birthday, with much love, Deb, John & Pearl xxx

Happy Birthday Mum

In memory of our beautiful Mum who we miss greatly. Rest in peace.

Thinking of you this Mothers Day. You would be pointing out the blossoms on the trees.
Love & miss you Mum.
Deb, John & Pearl xxx

I love you Mum and miss you every day. We were lucky to have had you. Love always. Yvonne.x

I miss you Mum - rest in peace with Dad xxxxx

Happy Birthday Mum. Love and miss you, Deb John & Pearl xxx

To Nat, Yvonne & Deb

So sorry that your lovely mum has passed away. She was such a kind hearted lady and always friendly and welcoming whenever I came round to the family home to practice tap dancing routines in her kitchen with Nat. She had wise words, a listening ear and was clearly proud of her family. Thinking of you all in these difficult times x

Dear Nat, Deb and Yvonne,

I am going to miss Auntie Joan, she was a true 'Cornish Lass' at heart and was very proud of her family, friends and the 'Homeland'. Having fun was always important to her but she had a serious side too and was always up to the challenge.

Julian and I remember fondly the legendary family hols each year with our cousins', the Carders and the Westcotts , and the adventures, fun and laughter we had together. Whether at playing place running around the bungalow with hot yeast buns in our hands that gran had made, or running down the dunes at Perranporth beach and ending up in pile of arms and legs at the bottom or sleeping in caravans squashed in like sardines; no matter what we did, Auntie Joan was always part of the fun.

She loved these times of family get togethers and I can remember her saying on many occasions "come on kids what are we doing next!"

I know there will be sadness tomorrow but I also know that Auntie Joan will want you to remember the good times we had as a family growing up too.

All my love and thoughts

Ian

Yvonne, Nat and Deb
We are so sorry for the loss of your lovely Mum, Joan. We had the pleasure of meeting your Mum at various family celebrations, Joan was so welcoming and talkative and clearly so very proud of her wonderful family. Focus on the wonderful memories you have of her. Love Pat and Lauren.

Nat, Deb & Yvonne
We are so sorry for the loss of your Mum Joan.
Auntie Joan was great Mum and Aunt. I have happy memories of us all together enjoying, often wet and muddy caravan holidays in Wales in the late 70s.
Auntie Pat remembers very fondly trips to the cinema with my Dad and Joan when uncle Ted was at sea.
In later years Keith and I enjoyed time in Singapore with Auntie Joan visting Deb, John & Pearl - especially Sunday brunch and a glass or two of bubbly!
Lots of happy memories. We are lucky to have had the wonderful experiences our families have given us xxx

We all have very fond memories of Auntie Joan. As you can see from the photos Mum was adored by her older sisters & this was reciprocated.
We can remember when Auntie Joan & family used to come to visit & the legendary Easter family meals.
We also remember many fun times with the cousins playing table tennis & seeing the three red headed sisters back together laughing over a glass of wine.
Although Auntie Joan lived far away she was always Cornish at heart & loved to visit her Cornish family.
As a teenager (Sharon) I remember going to stay & getting the national express coach with Julian ‘ what an adventure’.
Auntie Joan & Uncle Ted we’re so hospitable & we had a great time.
I also remember camping in the New Forest when Hector was little ( in continual rain) & visiting Auntie Joan for some hime comforts & her legendary fish pie.
I remember (Amanda) Auntie Joan was so proud of all her family & when the Jones & Westcott clan met up with the Carder clan in Cornwall in 2012 Auntie Joan was in her element.
Mum & Joan were very close despite the age gap (10 years) & Mum often talked fondly of the antics they got up to at 30 Old Coach Road.
We all have very fond memories of Auntie Joan & remember her fondly.

Although Auntie Joan lived away from Cornwall for many years this did not make her a stranger. She would come home several times throughout the year to see us all for family gatherings. This showed that family was important to her and her Cornish roots were not forgotten. Her can-do approach to life allowed her to succeed in all that she undertook. Along with having a positive outlook on life she would always look for an opportunity to have fun with the ones she loved. It was always a joy to see Auntie Joan and my cousins which provide me with many happy memories and that's how I will remember her.

Born at home in Playing Place, Truro in 1937 to Kenneth and Pearl, Mum and her sisters Judy & Jill enjoyed a happy home life. Strongly family oriented, Mum continued to think of Cornwall as ‘home’ whilst creating a home wherever she lived. Perhaps inevitably, Mum loved swimming and always felt strong connection to the sea, finding peace in its strength.

With her love of being outdoors, Mum was free-spirited, and sporty and remained physically fit for all but the last years of her life. A talented pianist, a sensitive, empathetic soul yet strong-minded and feisty, flexible and liberal, Mum wanted the things that mattered done ‘right’. Her values were founded in her family’s principles to treat people well and find the good in others, a message that would serve us all well.

Mum approached everything with an open mind and, in times when to do so was unusual, set out from Cornwall with Ted and their three children under 3 to move ‘up country’, returning ‘home’ for many happy holidays.

A devoted mother, and loving gran, Mum’s message was to do your best, help others and be happy. Her deft pastry touch assigned to “cold hands, warm heart” stands as a metaphor for her quiet, determined and often surprising self.

She continued to try new things throughout her life, joining the University of the Third Age, taking up Golf, Line Dancing, Bridge, Bowls, Creative Writing, and working with a personal trainer into her 70s, and was remembered as being good company by her friends. She built and maintained many enduring friendships and relished the fun that they brought.

We invite you to remember Mum for who she was and not for the cruelty of the illness that engulfed her; for her butterfly spirit, love of dark chocolate, Champagne and Chanel No.5 for Christmas. We will miss her and take comfort from the knowledge that she is at peace and reunited with her beloved Ted.

We would love for you to add your own thoughts and special memories of Mum in the pages below.

Thank you for your love and support.
Natalie, Deborah & Yvonne