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Ian Arthur Southgate (6 Jan 1955 - 12 Dec 2020)
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In loving memory of Ian Arthur Southgate who sadly passed away on 12th December 2020, aged 65 years.
Celebrating the life of a big hearted bear of a man.
Ian was born and raised in Leigh-on-Sea where he spent his life. His 'bear like hugs' defined him as well as his humour and cheeky personality.
“ His loving and lively soul filled our home, he was very happy to be back living down Burnham Road, the road he was born. Nothing will fill the space he has left behind, but I know I’ll see him in my dreams, my sweetheart.”
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"Our dad had a special quality- a way of making people feel cared for and loved in a powerful way. We are immensely lucky and grateful to have him as a dad."
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"If there is one phrase that's been used most often to describe Ian over the past day, it is that he was 'larger than life'. He truly was a big man with a very big heart who who will be sorely missed by us all." -Leigh Rams
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"He epitomised the team spirit and competitiveness in sport."
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"So many people that know him, and know he was a golfer, perhaps don't realise that in his pomp he was not just a good player but a lovely lovely player. What a prodigious striker of the ball. Let's not forget, in the early 70s there was no titanium/graphite/carbon golf technology : woods were wooden and the best golf balls available here were Slazenger Plus and Dunlop 65. But he moved the ball 275 yards."
"He just squeezed every last drop of water out of the flannel. Others today have called him larger than life. And legend. And I want to add to those, "bon viveur". He was all of those."
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"Ian did so much for so many people and had great affiliations with so many places... Southend GC, Southend RFC and Leigh Ramblers, the Freemasons and of course his many clients and work colleagues. He was as big an influence at all these places as he was at Thorpe Hall GC getting involved in everything to make people's experience more enjoyable, raising money for good causes and improvements along the way. In terms of work going that extra mile for all his clients to secure their financial wellbeing in the future. For most people this would have been overwhelming. For Ian it was just what you do in life."
It is important for us to note that due to Covid restrictions, the funeral, being held on his birthday, is strictly by invitation only.
Being limited to such a small number has been particularly hard and we are deeply sorry not to throw the doors open to you all.
You are very welcome to watch the service online.
January 6th 2:40pm
https://www.obitus.com/
Username: Tare1946
Password: 072105
One day in the future, a momentous gathering will be organised to ensure a "wake" is done the right way, with everyone together.
We would like to thank you all for your kind messages and words of support at this sad time. Please continue to share any anecdotes from your time with Ian / our Dad, it's been a pleasure to hear your stories and memories about him.
Donations, in Ian's memory, are being gratefully accepted for two small, local children charities: Gold Geese and Packed With Smiles. Both close to Ian, in their own ways.
If you are able, please book in to donate blood, in honour of Ian's relationship with 'Jack's Journeymen'.
Thank you.
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Desperately shocked and upset to hear of your early passing. It’s taken this long to sink in. Having known you and been mates since 1974, will miss you for sure!! Rest in peace my dear friend and take care until we hopefully meet once more in heaven. Much love, Greg x
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Home, away, European trips; the banter and Ian always louder and larger than life - great memories that will forever bring a smile. Our love to the Southgate family. R.I.P Ian. Pete & Polly Cooper
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Home, away, European trips; the banter and Ian always louder and larger than life - great memories that will forever bring a smile. Our love to the Southgate family. R.I.P Ian. Pete & Polly Cooper
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Home, away, European trips; the banter and Ian always louder and larger than life - great memories that will forever bring a smile. Our love to the Southgate family. R.I.P Ian. Pete & Polly Cooper
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Such a larger than life personality. He will be very missed.
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You will be sorely missed for many many reasons. Thanks for your help and encouragement at Rams in the days when it mattered. RIP bug guy.
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BIG guy, not bug guy! Sorry!
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Thank you Paul and Sandie for this kind message x
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Ian was a very special big big man, and leaves a massive gap in so many people's lives. Never to be forgotten.
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Thank you Derek and Henny for this kind message. The Southgates x
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Leigh Ramblers FC will sorely miss this Club Legend and current Vice-Chairman. Ian was always full of life and was committed to moving the club forward and the club will strive to make his dream become reality.
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Our thoughts are with Jeanne and all the family xx
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Thank you Joe, Jo and Burt xx
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On behalf of all the boys at Leigh Ramblers Reserves, best wishes.
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Thank you Rams reserves for this kind gesture. Finally figured out how to reply to comments so apologies for the delay. We are very grateful. The Southgate Family
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Great memories of fun times at Ramblers
RIP Ian 🥰
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In memory of a great man with a big heart.
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Dear Southgate family,
Ian was my friend and Masonic brother. He was one of the few men I have ever known who was so well loved and respected by everybody who met him. I remember his warmth and generosity of spirit and will never forget the tine when he had the whole lodge virtually in tears when he told us of his granddaughter’s illness and his joy when she began to improve. This kind and gentle giant touched many of us deeply with his warm and giving nature and his obvious zest for life and laughs. He will never be forgotten in Belgrave lodge and we will certainly be raising a glass (or three) to his memory at our next lodge meeting. Our deepest condolences to you all. Rest in Peace Worshipful Brother Ian.
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Dear Pete, sorry for the delay in getting a response on here but we really appreciated this kind message. Thank you for taking the time to write to us. The Southgates x
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Dear Ian and family,
I was honoured to have known Ian through the Belgrave Lodge. Although we met on only a few occasions, I can honestly say that he was one of the most genuine and big hearted men that I have ever met.
While I wish that I could have known him better, I will carry forward the sentiment which existed in his generosity of spirit.
Today, I watched his farewell service which was enormously moving.
With deepest sympathy,
Richard Brewin
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Dear Richard, thank you so much for this kind message. We really appreciated it and I’m sure Dad would have too. Thank you. The Southgates x
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For the short period of time I knew you Ian, you made such a big impression on me. You will be sorely missed. An absolute gentleman x
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I fondly remember a stroll around Sunningdale with lots of stories and then a sudden question. "What do you make of that bunker, Mr Cooper?" Ian asked. "The conditioning's not very fair," I said. "Correct," he said, adding: "Of course, life's not very fair. But if we can do something about making it fairer, we should."
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This is a lovely memory you’ve shared. Thank you Matt! We appreciated it ❤️
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Life after the Prudential, Ian and I at a Sun Life convention. Circa 1988.
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Never above, Never below, Always side by side Where’s Ipswich mate 😂 xx💙💙
No one is going to know how much I am going to miss this man, thanks for the laughs, the tears but more importantly the years and years of friendship ❤️❤️
So much happiness xxx
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