Vivien 'Viv' Susan Homer (26 Dec 1962 - 19 Apr 2020)

In loving memory of Vivien 'Viv' Susan Homer who sadly passed away on 19th April 2020

My Eulogy for Viv

Hello and welcome to you all, those here, out there in the digital world and up there (in heaven).

I am Dave, Viv’s partner since 13th July 2003 (for nearly 17 years).

Look, I’m going to try to keep this short and sweet, just like our Viv!

Viv and I met by chance, well to me that was fate, at a time when both our lives were in turmoil, but that didn’t matter, it was love at first sight. We battled and fought through our issues picking each other up along the way, but whatever we faced we faced it together. Family first, always. This only helped cement the absolute love, trust and respect we had for each. Viv was always striving to make things right, no matter how hard.

Viv was a little pocket power station, a force to be reckoned with on occasion, driven on by total commitment to her family, my family and those that she loved. Viv would right the worlds wrongs if she could.

Family relationships can be difficult sometimes and I am thankful that Viv had made her peace with most. We were moving forwards, we had a couple of little holidays last year, the first in a few, both our families included in it to make it perfect of course. I cant put in to words how much that meant to her.

Viv inspired me to be a better me, she deserved that. We were engaged, but it could wait, we knew we were together forever anyway. We were planning a mortgage, to buy a house, a wreck if needed, to make our own, with room for the family to stay of course. And now although we cannot share those plans and we are going to miss her by our side, her memory will always survive, and inspire me and those that knew her to better people

Viv had the heart of a lioness, courageous and selfless, she would give everything up that she had to ensure the care and protection of those she loved. Forgoing her own grievances Viv would take the chance to take care of her own with extraordinary stubbornness, dedication and effort, right to the very end.

Viv was very proud of what she achieved as a professional chef, not bad from starting as the pub cleaner. Typical Viv though, give her half a chance and she will give it absolutely everything.

To be able to spend more time with the family Viv went back to Sainsburys, and gave that everything too.

Nobody could ever doubt Viv’s intentions, she wore her heart on her sleeve.

Viv to me was a beautiful, loving, wise, selfless and generous. Viv had a photographic memory, there was no point questioning something someone once said. Viv could remember their exact words, the clothes they were wearing, the exact time and date, what tattoos they had and what they were drinking and….

Viv wrote poems that would make you laugh and cry, she was able to put her most heartfelt feelings down in poems. This was her own self-help, getting things off her chest. To complete the therapy she would destroy every one of them. I was only ever shown two.

Viv could knit and sew, she loved watching our efforts in the garden grow, she loved bbq’s at home and holidays not too far away, she loved twinkly lights and the stars in the night sky, she loved the rain when it poured and the lightning too, she loved a cheap deal, or better still a charity buy, she didn’t like presents for herself, just kind words in a card was enough.

Viv never wanted a lot but gave everything.

Viv was my soul mate, a phrase commonly used, but there was not a single secret between us, we were a team and Viv was the star player, captain and manager. Viv could be harsh with her words which hurt sometimes but then truth often does. Viv was just guiding us through this game. Its now up to us to carry her legacy on, to play the game of our lives with the love, loyalty, passion and commitment that she showed. Its going to be tough but I truly believe Viv is still at our touchline, showing us the way.

We are all going to miss her terribly, her funny little dance, her quick wit, her honesty and wisdom. Im even going to miss the only joke in her repertoire – “what do you call a very big ant – a GIANT”

I will love you always wonderful woman xxx