Many people have commented on how much I look like my father but the similarities are more than just skin-deep.
Even though we disagreed on many things, from politics to religion, fundamentally we were the same.
We both have a tendency to be introspective, to disappear inside ourselves in large crowds.
My Mum brought out the more sociable side of my Dad, the one that you may all remember.
But with me he knew how to be.
No pressure, no expectation to be a different person.
He taught me how to live in this world.
The fundamental lesson was that you only fail when you give up.
I want to tell you how he taught me this.
When I was 18, I catastrophically failed my A-levels.
I rang my Dad in floods of tears, expecting disappointment and rebuke.
What I got instead was a father who drove 275 miles to take me down the pub and remind me that I wasn’t a failure, all I had to do was keep trying.
This is my guiding principle in my life.
I knew that even when he lived over 3,000 miles away he would drop everything to be by my side, supporting me and loving me; I only had to ask.
I know you thought I was always a little bit weird, Dad.
And that Mark is a little bit weird too.
But you loved us both or who we are and what we have become; I hope we made you proud.
I love you.
U.D.R.M
Christopher Hayward (8 Dec 1957 - 18 May 2016)
Funeral Director
- Location
- The Jolly Farmer Fleet End Road Warsash SO31 9JH
- Date
- 3rd Jun 2016
- Time
- 2.45pm
In loving memory of Christopher Hayward who sadly passed away on 18th May 2016.
Family flowers only, all donations are going to purchase a relatives bed for the oncology unit at Queen Alexandra Hospital. If you would like, we request that you wear something red in honour of Chris's proud Welsh heritage.
Donations can be made online using the following link: http://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/SomeoneSpecial/ChristopherHayward
If you are able to attend please let us know, to enable us to cater for appropriate numbers at the celebration afterwards. Please feel free to leave comments, memories and photographs below that will later be collated into a chronologically correct, spiral bound, laminated book..... :P
There will be pin boards at the celebration for photos and comments which will subsequently be collated and kept.
If you have any, please bring photos of Chris, the quirkier the better.
Any questions please get in touch.
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![Chris' promotion cake, expertly made by Lesley. I remember that the false nails were long female nails so Lesley had to put them in backwards!](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/6kcX9Tr1lpU5rMzuSdtNB7EAskE=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464811309_9097.jpg)
Chris' promotion cake, expertly made by Lesley. I remember that the false nails were long female nails so Lesley had to put them in backwards!
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![30/03/1996 John and I sporting some awesome sunglasses. Standard picnic set up for the West Car Park](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/5C4fWchAM6DvOn-U8cDVxpCmX80=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464811196_6043.jpg)
30/03/1996 John and I sporting some awesome sunglasses. Standard picnic set up for the West Car Park
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![Chris' promotion cake, expertly made by Lesley. I remember that the false nails were long female nails so Lesley had to put them in backwards!](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/6kcX9Tr1lpU5rMzuSdtNB7EAskE=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464811309_9097.jpg)
Chris' promotion cake, expertly made by Lesley. I remember that the false nails were long female nails so Lesley had to put them in backwards!
![26/03/1994, Twickenham for the Army Navy game](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/lVDs1D17aoti45ktYX-hEuvB-bU=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464811044_0271.jpg)
26/03/1994, Twickenham for the Army Navy game
![26/03/1994 either on the way to, or on the way back from Twickenham](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/1SljE-asSFGcoaLQLzvf-Pb6fhw=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464811099_3183.jpg)
26/03/1994 either on the way to, or on the way back from Twickenham
![Chris and the brother's Joslyn](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/gftl3unq4bSeNF6QyhCSiPy2uJg=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464811142_9153.jpg)
Chris and the brother's Joslyn
![30/03/1996 John and I sporting some awesome sunglasses. Standard picnic set up for the West Car Park](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/5C4fWchAM6DvOn-U8cDVxpCmX80=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464811196_6043.jpg)
30/03/1996 John and I sporting some awesome sunglasses. Standard picnic set up for the West Car Park
![Chris and Denise and Joss at Twickenham](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/Dx9TbU-P8PYo3KYXUZEoE-3WI2Q=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464811247_3816.jpg)
Chris and Denise and Joss at Twickenham
![Yet another ball, we miss you. X](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/MMRLEiScne8jKZ0E1yPQ_UnOro4=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464699095_2905.jpeg)
Yet another ball, we miss you. X
![Abu Dhabi Golf Club, Captains day. Chris collecting his prize](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/PEsgJJwaQ6T7XzT2ND2BpHIPd0s=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464096506_7392.jpeg)
Abu Dhabi Golf Club, Captains day. Chris collecting his prize
![Halloween -Abu Dhabi Golf Club. Yes they played golf in these outfits](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/B6yh02rxM8Nna0rcN9ek4U5OMKo=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1464096414_3005.jpeg)
Halloween -Abu Dhabi Golf Club. Yes they played golf in these outfits
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Halloween - Abu Dhabi Golf Club
![Lisa and John Wedding Day 2005](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/_7h8k699WH5uCI-RuwV-EHvm55g=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1463998367_7688.jpg)
Lisa and John Wedding Day 2005
Bethany Seren a couple of hours old 14th July 2009
Nana and Pops with their Grandchildren, 5th April 2014
Dartmeet Father and Son, 4th May 2015
Freya and Chloes 4th Birthday Party
![With fond memories of a great president and true welsh gentleman.Much love ,St David's Society AbuDhabi.](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/kJI5iXQzjwYXK54pWHHLFg0Els0=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1463992519_8189.jpeg)
With fond memories of a great president and true welsh gentleman.Much love ,St David's Society AbuDhabi.
![Such a wonderful caring man,xxwill miss you twinkle toes.](https://d24pb0tc2lc7uj.cloudfront.net/2Awvjg8TLl7iZ4y7zdIku-EXxgA=/fit-in/800x600/public/assets/uploads/thumbnail_i_1463992334_7729.jpeg)
Such a wonderful caring man,xxwill miss you twinkle toes.
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