Ian, how do I even begin?
I’m going to tell everyone the ‘Rain Song’ story, I think that describes our friendship best.
You were the head chef of The Belfry, I the newly appointed (20yr old) manager. I didn’t like your poached pear stuffed with blue cheese, you thought I knew, fe@k all, and told me so. You were a grumpy git (we’d laugh about this years later). But we bonded, somehow, over music...I told you I played guitar too. We got chatting about Zep, I mentioned I could play the Rain Song. Your response “No you can’t, it’s far too difficult for you!!” I brought my guitar in next shift, excited to show you it. You refused to listen 😂. “I’m too busy!”
Many years passed, we bumped into each other again at Pollock House. You’d let me and little Flo in for free, we’d sometimes have tea in your freezing cottage. I’d give you a lift sometimes, I’d bump into you south side often, you were staying at your sisters . Then you moved west end, again we’d bump into each other often. The last thing you made me was your Christmas Chutney, you chased me down Dumbarton Rd to give me it!
I didn’t know you emotionally until we became pals on FB. We would msg each other words of encouragement. I saw a side to you that moved me, your love of language and of heart touched me. We became good heartfelt friends, you called me Ms Refulgent. You were so generous of spirit and no matter what, remained invested kind thoughtful and warm. I had no idea you were ill until January. You were suitably Ian, and vague about your prognosis. I came to see you at the Beatson. You said bring your guitar.
I played the Rain Song for you then, after many moons and suns and lifetimes had passed. We both cried a little, no words required. Such a beautiful moment. You insisted on walking me to the main door after my visit. Even although you were weak.
In the elevator, without need for words or announcement you slipped your hand in mine. For the first time ever, it communicated much more than either of us could have said. We walked hand in hand to the main door, and that was the last time I saw you. I sobbed in the car like a baby because I knew. You see, some people just touch your life don’t they. I felt it all, in that moment…the happy sadness of the human condition. How truly blessed I was to have known you.
What a beautiful soul you were, and are…out there bemoaning your right to pear and blue cheese, kissing the wind and being kind to the hills. Rest easy fella ❤️. How lucky was I to call you friend x
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