Stephen John Tower

Stephen John Tower (27 Aug 1945 - 2 May 2023)

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St John The Baptist Church 107 High St, Halling, Rochester, Kent. ME2 1BT
Date
31st May 2023
Time
2.30pm
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The River Valley Golf Club Oak Lane Upchurch, Sittingbourne. ME9 7AY
Date
31st May 2023
Time
4pm

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In loving memory of Stephen John Tower who sadly passed away on 2nd May 2023, aged 77 years.

Stephen will be so sadly missed by loving wife Jacqueline, sons Michael and John, family and friends.

The family have requested family flowers only please, however if desired, donations in Stephen's memory for 'MNDA' - Motor Neurone Disease Association would be gratefully received, and can be made via a donation box available at the service or by visiting the link below. Thank you.

https://www.justgiving.com/mndassoc

You are warmly invited to join the family, after a Private family Committal, for light refreshments from 4.00 pm at River Valley Golf Club, Oak Lane, Rainham, Sittingbourne, Kent. ME9 7AY.

Dawn Waters wrote

Words are not enough. Stephen was a gent of all men. He always warmly welcomed you with a smile, infact I vary rarely didn't see him smiling which showed how much he loved life and those around him

Being one of John's closest friends I didn't know Michael as well as many others did but he and Jacqueline welcomed me into their fold because of my friendship with John. My heart goes out to Jacqueline and all the family. When we loose a loved one our world stops turning even if only for a moment.

You are all in my thoughts as well as Stephen who was a warm hearted kind man who would do anything for anyone given half the chance.

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  • Thank you Dawn. As far as my parents were concerned, mine and my brother’s friends were their friends without question and were always welcome at any time.

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Barry Gillam wrote

Good bye Steve, you will be sorely missed. Thanks for the opportunities that you opened up for me and for the friendship that it became. I will never forget you turning up on a Saturday morning and taking me to SELCHP, well the jobs yours if you want it, by the way I'm off to Taiwan on Monday, Mike Groom will look after you, see you when I return. Until we meet again Steve Linda and Barry

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  • Thank you Barry. Sometimes my father’s methods were, shall we say, unconventional. But he believed that the ends justified the means, as long as they were properly directed and benefitted all concerned.

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Laura Muir wrote

We have so many happy memories of all the family parties and celebrations over the years. Thank you Stephen for always being friendly warm and lively! The Muir family.

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  • Thank you Laura. It's the happiest memories that will live with us always.

    Posted by John on 29/05/2023 Report abuse
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John Cook wrote

Stephen will be sadly missed by all who knew him but his spirit will shine through all those whose lives he touched.

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  • Thank you John We will all miss him terribly but will always be grateful of the time that we ever spent with him, even (or possibly especially) towards the end.

    Posted by John on 29/05/2023 Report abuse
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Walter Berry wrote

Stephen is a true friend to our family whose love and integrity shines through in all his deeds. May he rest in peace. He will always be with us. From the Berry family.

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  • Thank you Wally. You have been a great friend to our family and many others around us for so many years. Many happy times spent together. Pip still talks about Bonnieux and how much fun he had cooking with you, as well as watching Val paint. Naturally, he had the white collar role!

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SJT in the third row ...

SJT in the third row ...

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Marion Jennings wrote

One day, about 40 years ago, Steve decided that the computer which had been dumped in our bit of Marshall Road should be removed. So he put it in his car and took it to the tip! Then there was the time when a friend of his had a lawnmower problem. Every week Steve mowed his own grass then pushed the mower up the road. I could write a book! Steve was always kind, thoughtful and full of fun.
Anything he did, he liked to do well which is why it took John 22 years to persuade him to join Rotary. We enjoyed lots of trips away together and as for Status Quo concerts, didnt you hear us. And shouldn’t we be wearing flashy shoes on 31st?
Thank you for everything Steve. Rest in peace dear friend.

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  • Thank you Marion. Wear the flashiest shoes you want. It’s what he would have wanted.

    Posted by John on 21/05/2023 Report abuse
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The SECHP commissioning team regroup at the 15(?)th year reunion.

The SECHP commissioning team regroup at the 15(?)th year reunion.

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  • Thanks for the picture Andy. Very much appreciated.

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50th Wedding anniversary I think.

50th Wedding anniversary I think.

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  • Thank you for this picture Keith. It’s a really good one and much appreciated.

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Keith Woolmer wrote

Stephen was a good friend who will be sadly missed.

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  • Thank you Keith. He touched the lives of many.

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I think this was Jacqui and Stephen's 50th wedding anniversary.

I think this was Jacqui and Stephen's 50th wedding anniversary.

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  • Keith - I’ve just had confirmation and you’re correct.

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Barry Woolmer wrote

A good friend who will be sadly missed by many.

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  • Thank you Barry. He will indeed be missed.

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1985 St Jean de Luz

1985 St Jean de Luz

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  • The sun, The Times and, I suspect, Clarks Polyveldt shoes. After the apocalypse, all that will be left are cockroaches and Clarks Polyveldt soles.

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Enid & Jacques Grunenwald wrote

Au revoir Stephen, you leave us with so many memories of a friendship spanning more than 60 years. This photo shows just one of those memories, an Englishman in St Jean de Luz, 1985.
RIP dear friend.

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  • Thank you Enid & Jacques. You were great friends to my father - even if he did attempt to burn down the next-door farm in Vernon with a car boot full of fireworks that November 5th! Saint Jean de Luz was a place that we all loved. My mind goes back to when us four children played football in the road, one of us booted the ball over a hedge and Sandrine was sent to collect it. She knocked on the door and asked to get the ball back in French. The old lady who answered said, in English, “you speak French good” and Sandrine, with utter poise said back, in English, “thank you, I try.”

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  • Oh I'd forgotten that John, thanks for sharing. The firework display was indeed a night to remember, it was the main topic of conversation in the village for some time afterwards. We're so sorry that we can't be with you on the 31st but we'll be there with you in our hearts. Xx

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Rosemarie Barnes wrote

Steve and Jacqui have been Very Special friends to Graham and myself for many many years and Steve’s diagnosis was a very emotional blow for Us both. My memories of Steve are a loyal friend,wonderful holiday companion and ready wit and keen supporter for Inner Wheel. God Bless Steve.

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  • Thank you Rosemarie. There are so many good times to look back on that you can’t count them and I know that Dad was always grateful for the friends that he made through the Rotary work.

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Robert Bursey wrote

Di and I were very privileged to have been friends with Steve and have known him and Jacqui for many years. Steve will be remembered by all as a loyal friend, a clever, clear sighted and witty man whose presence will be sadly missed. A great Rotarian and asset to the club. RIP Steve.

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  • Thank you Rob & Di. Dad believed in what Rotary did very deeply and put a lot of his time and energy into it in his later years with no regrets at all.

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Stephen John Tower SJT in the third row ...

SJT in the third row ...

The SECHP commissioning team regroup at the 15(?)th year reunion.

The SECHP commissioning team regroup at the 15(?)th year reunion.

50th Wedding anniversary I think.

50th Wedding anniversary I think.

I think this was Jacqui and Stephen's 50th wedding anniversary.

I think this was Jacqui and Stephen's 50th wedding anniversary.

1985 St Jean de Luz

1985 St Jean de Luz