Tribute to Jenny Bull given at her funeral on 13/7/22.
There was always a welcome in any of Jenny & Barry’s homes. I visited four. Those in Vicarage Road, & Haven Gardens, Crawley Down, their flat at Sandbanks & finally their home a Friars Cliff, Mudeford. My daughter Ruth baby sat for Jenny & one night, knowing the boys were tucked up safely in bed she heard a noise from another bedroom. Carefully opening the door she was panic stricken to see a boney, skinny hand waving to her from between the wall & the bed. She was not aware that one of Barry’s parents was staying & had fallen out of bed & needed help!
But my first lasting memory was at their first home in Crawley Down, Pinewood, Vicarage Road. My late wife Eileen & I moved to Crawley Down in 1974. For 2 years we continued to commute on Sundays to our previous church in Three Bridges, but we gradually got involved in an independent house group in Hillside, Crawley Down. We met for prayer & Bible study each week. I forget if Jenny & Barry were involved.
After some months we needed to decide on the future of the group. We had a week of specific prayer about this. The Lord split up the group & we felt led to join All Saints’ Church. In 1975 Archbishop Cogan issued a “Call to the nation” & part of that was a challenge that each church should have a house group. The Vicar of Crawley Down, Rev. Graham Bryant, decided All Saints’ should have a house group & Jenny & Barry hosted the first meeting in their home at Pinewood, Vicarage Road. Eileen & I went along. Our previous house group had shut the Wednesday before the new group started. We never missed a week! Such is The Lord’s perfect timing! That Wednesday House Group continued for over 40 years under various leaders, including Barry. It only closed when we ran out of leaders because of removal, death or old age.
Through the house group we got to know Barry & Jenny. Eileen & I found ourselves leading part of the church children’s & young people’s work. We had both done this in previous churches & did not then know that the Vicar was praying for new Sunday School teachers! Eventually Barry & Jenny joined us & the late Stanley & Barbara White as leaders of Pathfinders, a teenage group. Although some of us had years of experience in church youth work, Jenny was the only qualified teacher amongst us. We worked well together for years.
Eventually Barry joined me as a Reader & our direct youth involvement ceased.
But I was also involved with Jenny in The Open Door Group. I have tried to research my far too numerous files. I see Open Door was founded as a result of discussion in 2003 between the then Vicar, Rev. Jon Hale, & the Pastoral Team. In 2003/4 we set up Pastoral Visitors, including Jenny & myself, & from that came the idea of a Bereavement Support Group which became known as the Open Door Support Group (subsequently just Open Door Group). I had been involved in the planning but not running of it or attending, as my wife, Eileen, did not die until 2005. But soon after her death I was invited to attend.
The Vicar was nominally in charge of the group but it was not well attended. I can’t find the PCC minute but I distinctly remember him saying that in view of the poor attendance he would close it. Jenny objected & agreed to coordinate it. Soon she had a small committee helping her, of which I was one. We varied the time & nature of the meetings. A feature of her leadership was outings. She & Barry took the Group twice to Eastbourne, to Midhurst, Cowfold, Nymans, Sheffield Park & Wakehurst Place, to name a few. Jenny continued as Coordinator until her move to Dorset. Only then did we realise how much she was doing. Her Coordinator’s job became split between the late Janet Rayner and then Sue Pearson as Secretary & myself as Chairman. But for Jenny the Group would have closed. But since we recommenced after Covid, 52 different people have attended with an average attendance of just under 30. Jenny’s work was worth while, quite apart from rescuing a very large tea pot for us from the skip outside the old parish rooms!
I know Jenny was also involved in “Network” which, until insurance considerations stopped it, provided valuable transport & practical assistance to people needing help in the village. My wife helped Network but I was not directly involved.
I hope this all indicates what a good hardworking colleague Jenny was. Besides which she was a real friend. I greatly appreciated my two visits to stay at Friars Cliff. The boat trip up river was particularly memorable.
In all this Jenny loved & served Our Lord Jesus Christ. We read in Romans 8 that nothing shall separate us from the love of Christ … neither death nor life… nor anything else in all creation, For Jenny she is now absent from her body & at home with The Lord.
Again my condolences & sympathy to all the family and thank you Lord God for Jenny & all she meant to us
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